it's that magical time of the year again folks... i know everyone has heard of a summer fling, but why hasn't someone coined the term "winter whimsicality"? well, maybe it's just not as catchy. or maybe you are just asking what this concept is... well, it is when everyone you know starts going out with everyone else you know and you, yourself, know that none of them should be with one another. it happens every year, and i would know being in school for four and a half years - and having my own whimsicalness once already...
you see, we all come into a new school year in the fall with wide eyes and stupid stupid stupid hearts, looking for mr or mrs right. we inevitably find one person we are really really interested in and try to hang out with them all the time - unfortunately this never works out right and by november we loose interest on both sides... luckily this gives rise to "that person we sorta know but only hangs out with our other friends." so for a month we casually gain interest in some person we don't know, and in fact, no one probably really knows all that well (except the person who grew up with them and knows for a fact that you'd be horrible for each other and is in general dissaray for your sanity in the upcoming months). so of course, going into the holiday season of december/jan, no one wants to be the only person not taking anyone home for christmas - so matches are made, however spontaneous, and relationships begin - sometimes innocently, sometimes... well, not so innocently.
regardless of beggining, time always is the downfall. if the relationship makes it to valentine's day, then it usually takes about another month for the couple to realize that once they took the time to ACTUALLY get to know one another, they weren't right for each other - or it takes an entire semester of drama to realize that physical attraction isn't worth the emotional distress.
this isn't an attack on relationships, or sheer bitterness at the fact that i am 22 and still single. it comes from experience and seeing many of my friends doing stupid things over and over, and then finally coming back to ask themselves why they ruined a good friendship, or just made a mistake in the first place. well, we are human and all err -- as i said, it has happened to me as well. but please, all you budding couples, do not loose heart! there are always the rule breakers who were assumably meant to be and stand the test of time, and if you are one of those, i salute you, and congradulate you on having one less thing to worry about in life... but to the rest of you, i would encourage you to step back, and step up to the fact that you may either be in a seasonal relationship for selfish, or unrealistic reasons...
as for me... i will sit back, enjoy the show, and be there to listen to whoever needs it - because i admit, not even me, in my great self absorption, knows which couples will fade and which will last. my road of love is being paved and i can only hope that it takes me somewhere i can find hapiness for a lifetime, not a semester...
as always, keepin it real... REAL real...
you see, we all come into a new school year in the fall with wide eyes and stupid stupid stupid hearts, looking for mr or mrs right. we inevitably find one person we are really really interested in and try to hang out with them all the time - unfortunately this never works out right and by november we loose interest on both sides... luckily this gives rise to "that person we sorta know but only hangs out with our other friends." so for a month we casually gain interest in some person we don't know, and in fact, no one probably really knows all that well (except the person who grew up with them and knows for a fact that you'd be horrible for each other and is in general dissaray for your sanity in the upcoming months). so of course, going into the holiday season of december/jan, no one wants to be the only person not taking anyone home for christmas - so matches are made, however spontaneous, and relationships begin - sometimes innocently, sometimes... well, not so innocently.
regardless of beggining, time always is the downfall. if the relationship makes it to valentine's day, then it usually takes about another month for the couple to realize that once they took the time to ACTUALLY get to know one another, they weren't right for each other - or it takes an entire semester of drama to realize that physical attraction isn't worth the emotional distress.
this isn't an attack on relationships, or sheer bitterness at the fact that i am 22 and still single. it comes from experience and seeing many of my friends doing stupid things over and over, and then finally coming back to ask themselves why they ruined a good friendship, or just made a mistake in the first place. well, we are human and all err -- as i said, it has happened to me as well. but please, all you budding couples, do not loose heart! there are always the rule breakers who were assumably meant to be and stand the test of time, and if you are one of those, i salute you, and congradulate you on having one less thing to worry about in life... but to the rest of you, i would encourage you to step back, and step up to the fact that you may either be in a seasonal relationship for selfish, or unrealistic reasons...
as for me... i will sit back, enjoy the show, and be there to listen to whoever needs it - because i admit, not even me, in my great self absorption, knows which couples will fade and which will last. my road of love is being paved and i can only hope that it takes me somewhere i can find hapiness for a lifetime, not a semester...
as always, keepin it real... REAL real...
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